So I recently wrote a post about things you only realise as you get older. Personally, I thought it was a bit depressing, but other people seemed to like it. So I decided to write this post in a similar “Self help” vein for people to read of they are having a bad day.
1) You have a roof over your head.
I was going to say something a like you have an iphone, but quite frankly if you’ve shelled out for the last couple of models then you do have some problems. I mean, I know I have an iPhone, but if Apple thinks I’m going to go running to purchase their latest model because it has a better camera and has a touch screen sensitive to my fingerprint (Hmm, a phone locked to our fingerprints and handles most of our communication, that doesn’t sound dodgy at all) then they can think again.
Anyway, at the end of the day, if you have a place you can call home, running water and electricity then you’re better than a lot of the world’s population. We get agitated if a coffee shop doesn’t provide free WIFI with it’s overpriced macho latte, but there are some people who can’t even afford to have electricity or running water, nevermind an overpriced drink from Starbucks which essentially charges you to breathe the air in their shop.
2) You can afford to eat reasonably well.
The word ”reasonably” is very subjective here, because one person might count the processed Tesco value meals as reasonable food, but people like Jamie Oliver would sooner eat out the contents of a cat’s soiled litter tray than some Tesco Value Macaroni and cheese. I’ve decided to class reasonable as being able to afford to eat three square meals a day, and being able to walk to the cupboard if you’re hungry and not find it emptier than Loughborough during the summer.
3) You have at least one person you can confide in.
If you’re really lucky, you’ll have more than one person. However, even if you’ve just got one person you can confide in knowing they won’t judge you and will over you whatever it is you need (emotionally) then that’s enough. I think living in the age of social media we often feel forced to present a happy face to the world, even when we feel anything but happy, so having just one person we can let see the real us is enough.
4) You are healthy
Yesterday, I spoke to a man on the phone whose wife had lung cancer which had spread to her bone and liver, and it was such a sobering moment. Life is always going to be a roller coaster but, ultimately, if you still have your health then you still have hope. The only thing that is permanent in life is death.
5) You can think of three things that make you smile.
It could be something your friend said, or something you saw on tv but if you can think of three things in a minute that genuinely make you smile then that’s pretty good! Happiness is a state of mind, and you achieve it by changing your mindset, so thinking of three things a day that make you smile is a good way to go about achieving happiness.